Mangalsutra

What men should look for beyond third knot?

Life starts with a ceremony, upto us to make it a symphony. Initial phase of any married life is an induction where lust mostly takes the driver seat. Every day is an experiment filled with learning curves. New places, feasts, gifts, shopping, surprises are surplus. But life doesnt end in 90 days. There is a long road ahead with pits n twists n curves. Every girl has a past which moulds her into what she is and all her beliefs and values revolve around it. We gotta respect it even if its impractical. Love care selflessness sincerity are worm holes to reach the planet of harmony. Changes imposed are escalators which lead to tomb of quarrel. Let her live her routine may be it be a movie with colleagues, an ice cream with a buddy or a pizza with her schoolmate on their reunion. If we can fit into her circle of friends, life is better than an oasis. When we expect her to be a daughter, we cant be son in laws. Finding time and space for her parents anniversary, a shoulder in corridors of ICU, pair of hands to wipe of their tears without expectations and returns from her. Giving is more soothing n pleasureful. Karma will guide the returns. Trust is biggest punishment if guilty and biggest reward if genuine. Both are good in their ways. Treating equally itself is a tone of domination and giving her the space and say is the key to heaven of togetherness. Of course man is made of emotions and quarrels are inevitable. Best thing is to bye pass those moments to come back n give a tight hug to say "win or loss - meaningless without you". Of course self respect means a lot to both but little suppleness is an adhesive.
Beauty immortalises itself when its beyond flesh. Introspection from a man regarding his academic, economic, social statuses before making the most crucial choice of life is much tougher than that of a bomb diffuser. Let us give what we expect